A phrase that is often used in jest is so true when it comes to the success of a small group. As a leader -authenticity is the key to a vibrant, safe, and healthy small group. Shortly after taking on the responsibility of leading our small group ministry at Christ's Church of the Valley, I started 3 small groups. One with my key small group ministry leaders, one with young adults, and one with career singles. I quickly noticed that once I started to set the pace by sharing and making myself vulnerable, others in the room followed suit, especially in the young adult group. The authenticity that occurred happened only after I let my walls. The atmosphere that was created by simply being real made the stress and awkward feelings melt away.
The other thing that I observed was these groups quickly grew and they are still active today even though I no longer lead them. When people feel safe they are authentic and when others see authenticity they want to be a part of it.
