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Frank Chiapperino is the Director of Adult Ministries at Christ's Church of the Valley and founder of Small Group Help.

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How do you encourage group members to invite others to your group?  Carter Moss, from Big Ideas About Small Groups, recommends the following:

  • Challenge your group to make a list of people to invite
  • Have a contest for whoever brings the most people to group Lead by example and invite
  • Go into service early and introduce yourself to someone sitting down
  • Hang out in the entryway and get to know people
  • Stand by the door and hand out a card with your small group info
  • Follow up with past people that have showed interest in your group
  • Participate in planned events such as the small group fair and the weekly small group table
  • Wear something that identifies you as a  "small group leader"
  • Talk positively about your small group, people are listening
  • Plan a small group social, invite your neighbors
  • Always have an empty chair in group and always be talking about inviting new people
  • When an established group has been together for a long time this can be challenging.  I will often encourage group leaders by challenging their groups with two questions:

    1. How do you feel about this small group?
    2. Knowing how important this group has been for you, dont you want to help someone else have the same experience God has provided you through these relationships? How do you encourage an invitational culture in your group?

    Sometimes our small group relationships can get stuck in a superficial limbo. There are people in our groups that we never really get to know deeply.  When that happens we miss out on the life experience that others can teach us.  Bill Search has a great activity you can do with your group to learn more about each other and go deeper with your relationships.  Take a look...

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    Bill Donahue and Henry Cloud recently were interviewed by Anita Lustrea on Midday Connection (Moody Radio Ministries).  They talked about the fears women have about connecting in small groups and the role that relational intelligence plays in helping groups grow. 

    Life change happens in community.  Sometimes we need to create that community in the form of small groups.  Bill Donahue and Henry Cloud discuss the dynamics of groups and emotional intelligence.  Learn how to strengthen your small group experience and gain confidence to start a group.

    Click here to listen to the interview.

     

     

    Source: Dave Treat (Group Life)


    A Small Group is more than a meeting.  It is an opportunity for others to experience Jesus in a tangible way.  A friend of mine recently wrote about her experience in a local diner:

    The waitresses - Joanne ('Red'), Jackie, Sue, Elisa, Queenie, and Jamie - are happy to see me. They all know my name. No matter which one waits on me, they start by bringing me my morning beverage - iced tea/no lemon - without being asked. And they genuinely are there to serve me. 

    On days off, I take the week's newspapers and head to the diner's corner booth. It's the booth I like the best because I can hear and see what is happening in the rest of the little diner.

    From there, I have seen and heard the waitresses sing Happy Birthday to a 90 year old woman who has no family - except them. The whole restaurant joined in. 

    I have seen them fill the thermoses an extra time for the construction workers working on the road out front in the middle of a wicked cold snap. And then run out with some free donuts just because ‘those guys needed a little something special on such a cold day.'

    They notice when their elderly patrons haven't been there in awhile. They remember a baby's birth, a death of a loved one, a loss of a job. They don't solve anyone's problems. They just listen, and make sure for those few moments you are with them, that you have a full cup of coffee and a smile.  

    I don't know what each of them believes, but I see Jesus when I watch them. No judgment. No chastising. Nothing but a listening ear and a shower of kindness. Often unexpected. Always appreciated.

    Just last week, each one of them made their way to my table to ask how my sister was doing who was recently diagnosed with cancer. I told only Joanne about my sister a week earlier when she had noticed that I seemed sad. She cared enough to share my story - to share her concern for me

    When someone brand new shows up to your group, what is the experience like for them?  Do they see Jesus in a tangible way? What can we learn from this little family diner that we can apply to the small groups we lead?

    You can read Diane's full post here.


    </p>.jpg" hspace="4" vspace="4" width="140" height="127" align="right" />Does your small group ever breakdown into smaller disscussion groups? Or how about splitting up for activities? Recently the women in my group got together while the men stayed home with the kids. From the sounds of it the ladies didn't miss us much. After my wife (Shelli) got back from the meeting I actually thought that they might birth a women's group from ours and leave us guys hanging!

    Anyway, after spending some time with the guys a couple of us are going to read a book together and meet one morning per week to discuss the book till we are done. I am looking forward to the experience with these guys since I rarely see them without their wives.

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